The ONLY chat up line you will ever need!

We've all been there!

WOW!!!! They could be the one!!!! 

The way look, their movement, so confident, their eyes, so much personality! You can feel it in your body, chemicals are sending all sorts of signals to ever part of your body. Just a glance at them and you're already hooked!! So, what happens next?

You do Nothing!!!

The same as you always don't. This blog has the small step you need to change this habit.

Analysis Paralysis

As Geeks, we over-analyze everything. Most people stress about approaching someone they fancy, for Geeks its 10 times worse. The thought is paralyzing. It's like a bad dream, you can't move, you're short of breath. Obviously, you don't act on it. It's not even that you decide not to talk to them. You were never going to talk to them. You can't talk to them. That's not what you do. You wouldn't know what to say, you don’t know where to start.

You go home alone, as always. You think about them and what you could have done. What you should have said, some clever line. You mull it over and over, phrasing and rephrasing. Not too obvious, something funny, you're clever, you can do this, you just have to remember it. You're like Travis Bickle from Taxi Driver, rehearsing in his mirror.... "You lookin at me?".

We all do it, we go over and over what we should have said. What we should have done. But then next time comes, across the room you notice them, and again YOU DO NOTHING!!!

Let's Look Objectively

You've got yourself into a bad habit. You've overthought it and built things up to be way more stressful than they need to. You need to take a step back and look at things. You're a Geek, you're clever, you can look at things objectively. So lets break this down into some sort of steps...

• You fancy them but you don't know what to say. You're nervous, so a big speech or clever line will be shaky at best. Even if you nail it, things sound very different out loud or they could easily mishear your linguistic acrobatics.
• You have 7 seconds to make an impression. Even before you speak, they have formed an opinion and clever words are not likely to change someone's mind
• They might fancy you. If so, chances are they are just as nervous as you, maybe even more so. If you do nothing, you will never know!
• You just need to break the ice. You're not looking to win them over with a single clever line. That wouldn't work on you, it won't work on them
• You have nothing to lose, so lets agree, you need just talk to them. You wouldn't be reading this if you didn't want to.

But what do you say? Well, you need that make this as easy as possible, not just for you but also for them. You need something that is:

• Easy to remember
• Natural
• Hard to mishear
• Confident

This blog is about Small Steps, so here it is, This is the killer line. Get your notepad out…

Just say: "Hey" and smile.

Go over within a few seconds of noticing them (that way you’re less likely to seem creepy) and just say “Hey”, and smile. Then chat, ask about them, talk about the place you're in, compliment their outfit, their watch, their jewellery. The hardest bit is just breaking the ice

Think about it. "Hey" is also completely inoffensive. It's quick. It's totally natural. Sure, not everyone is going to reciprocate, but nobody is going to think less of you. Chances are, they will talk to you... remember, you're only trying to start the ball rolling.

Give it a try next time you see someone. What have you got to lose?

Go well Geeks

Live long and Prosper

February 09, 2020 Tags : Confidence , Goals , Mindset , Sex

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